I first became aware of Alan soon after his marriage to Polly (my surrogate mum) on a beach in Cambia, West Africa in the naughties via a photo of the happy couple after they exchanged vows was sent to me in the post. I started to grow very fond of him since that time, chatting on the phone before eventually meeting when we would often hang out together during my return and failed attempt to assimilate back into UK culture for a year in 2012-13 after having lived in the US for a decade.
We would attend quite a few live music shows together in and around Stoke and Nottingham, given his passion for music and pursuing a brief stint as a music promoter back in the 80s (correct if I'm wrong). We saw The Barflys, Adam Ant, Jeff Wayne's Musical Version of The War of the Worlds amongst others. Common music preferences were to be had, mostly post-punk.
I would also go and see him play footy and five-a-side with his mates a few times, he was quite the active player, right up until last year and as everyone knows, he was a staunch and loyal supporter of the Potters, never missing a home match.
I will always remember his vivid storytelling, peppered with humour and pathos, no matter the seriousness of the subject matter. He was a very funny guy who didn't suffer fools gladly.
I'm glad I got to see Alan one more time earlier this year albeit under the sad circumstances of Polly's passing. He always kept his spirits up despite the intense grief he must have felt which I suspect took his toll on him and eventually took him away from us all too soon. I take comfort in the thought that Alan and Polly are together now, constantly ribbing each other affectionately which was often the case in life, a display and expression of their love for one another.
Thank you for being there and making me laugh, Alan, you will be sorely missed. Rest in peace, mate xxx
Mark Barnes
15/06/2025